December 14, 2020
Welcome to Absolute Monday
on Sugar 95.7 FM
Simple Talk Blog
I’m your host Epik Liz
“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself”
Hey everyone! Greetings, and a warm welcome from 10.69 degrees N and 61.22 degrees W. (for those who don’t know that’s the beautiful tropical isle of TnT – 868 representing) My name is Epik Liz (at least that’s my preferred sobriquet) and I am here to share with you a little about me. My life, my passions, my challenges and my successes so that in some way my world and yours may meet and our lives can be richer for it.
So just to get started let me introduce myself. I am a single, mixed heritage, bilingual, single West Indian mother of three (3) oh no, make that four (4). I have survived; a challenging childhood that left me practically fatherless and virtually homeless; a physically and emotionally abusive marriage and divorce; unbelievable injustice in the workplace stemming from my being a woman and a myriad of other social and emotional ills that seem to have plagued my life and yet still I rise.
I love people, life, meeting others, travelling, trying out new things, sharing ideas, promoting young people and getting closer to God. As a raised catholic child whose parents were raised poor even though we had more than enough, everything was rationed – you name it – food, material things and even affection, and the unthinkable…love! It seemed like as a child you were not allowed to have too much of anything especially not fun!
I have however successfully (singlehandedly) raised two of my own children (now adults and on their own) and I am actively raising two more, one biological and the other an indigenous warao indian from the Orinoco river. Having parented for the last three (3) decades you could call me a veteran. My first two were taken out of the education system as pre-teens and home-schooled for several years before returning to continue their higher education. The last two – my thirteen-year-old and the sixteen-year-old warao child – are both radically unschooled.
I am a huge advocate for the liberation of young people and would do anything in my power to support a young person (and his or her parent/s) to live their best life. I also believe that as parents our jobs are the single most import ones for the building of a just society, yet we are taken for granted and never given the necessary resources to do an adequate job. Nonetheless, we still somehow manage, whether consciously or unconsciously, never to pass on the same hurts that were inflicted upon us by our parents to our young people in the same way and they always turn out better equipped than we were to take on life.
At the same time, we as parents sadly never feel like we have done enough! We run ourselves ragged trying to give our young ones the best and mostly have a hard time telling if we are doing a good job. So, we beat ourselves up and tend feel a huge level of guilt instead of accomplishment when we look at our kids. We have a hard time appreciating ourselves and the remarkable ways we have managed to love our own and as a result we feel frustrated and often just want to throw in the towel and admit defeat.
Well, I am here to tell you that you are not alone! No matter how bad and inadequate you feel at times I guarantee that you are doing an amazing job with your life and the lives of your precious young ones! You are absolutely enough. “The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself” Maya Angelou
Oh dear, I have run out of time. I am going to have to wrap up for today and get back to telling you more about my EpiK life on the next Absolute Monday! Thanks for taking the time to check in. This is Epik Liz saying Bye for now!!!!